When it comes to taking care of our wellbeing, most of us have some experience of underlying guilt that comes from all that ‘indulgence’. When we believe self-care is selfish, any resistance we experience to creating the time and space required is completely understandable.

Prioritising your wellbeing is the complete opposite of selfishness, it’s essential for your health and happiness. 

Self-care is the key that unlocks the door to our resilience. Most people understand that resilience –  the ability to bounce back from adversity – is a really helpful quality to have!

However, our culture often characterises resilience as a white-knuckle ride of will-power, grit and tenacity. It seems completely incongruous with banana cardamom pancakes (one of the delicious recipes included in our home retreats.)


Gluten free pancakes

In truth, resilience is made up of a number of different skills and abilities: self-awareness, creating meaning from life lessons, self-efficacy, optimism and the ability to build relationships; these are some of the key ingredients in the resilience stew.

Importantly, we don’t need to go through a major traumatic event or life upheaval to begin to develop resilience, many studies have found regular ‘micro-doses’ of self-care are one of the most effective ways to build and sustain resilience.

The top 10 practices are:

  • Get enough sleep
  • Eat regular, well-balanced meals
  • Seek out connection with friends, family and community for support
  • Practise gratitude
  • Release tension in healthy ways e.g. exercise, yoga
  • Set limits, especially when others are too demanding of your time or energy
  • Meditate
  • Connect with nature
  • Find creative ways to express yourself
  • Limit exposure to media                     

Hannah one of our past retreat participants said:

 ‘Integrating little moments of stillness and mindfulness into my day has helped me deal with stresses and unpredictability’.

The moments during the day when we pause to take a long, slow deep breath and feel really present, when we’re able to notice how it feels to tenderly rub a beautifully scented oil into our skin, really matter.

It’s easy to believe we need to spend hours engaged in self-care, or that unless we have a well-established routine, it doesn’t count. But this is nonsense! We need practices that support our lives, not take us out of them, and those little moments all add up.

At State of Liberty, we want to support you as you integrate wellbeing into your everyday life. Moments of self-care, the ones that cultivate deep and lasting resilience, can be found in the smallest interactions with all that surrounds you.

Love the SOL team xx






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