When it comes to taking care of our wellbeing, most of us have some experience of underlying guilt that comes from all that ‘indulgence’. When we believe self-care is selfish, any resistance we experience to creating the time and space required is completely understandable.
But here at State of Liberty, our team of experts wholeheartedly agree that prioritising your wellbeing is the complete opposite of selfishness.
Gemma’s work is all about creating a sense of balance and harmony within our minds and bodies, and externally with the seasons around us. By honouring these natural shifts and changes, we feel fortified and grounded.
Through Clem’s gentle yoga we get to experience the self-care of movement – stretching and moving through poses that create both a physical strength, and trust in our bodies.
Lizzie’s food is delicious and nutritious. By connecting to our food, mindfully shopping, cooking and eating we make choices based on our unique needs and tastes, nourishing our bodies to feel happy and vital.
I’m interested in helping you cultivate emotional courage – to approach your life, work, creativity and relationships with a sense of home within you, founded on acceptance, trust and self-belief.
We start to see that self-care is, in fact, the key that unlocks the door to our resilience. Most people understand that resilience – the ability to bounce back from adversity – is a really helpful quality to have!
However, our culture often characterises resilience as a white-knuckle ride of will-power, grit and tenacity. It seems completely incongruous with banana cardamom pancakes (one of the delicious recipes included in our home retreats.)
In truth, resilience is made up of a number of different skills and abilities: self-awareness, creating meaning from life lessons, self-efficacy, optimism and the ability to build relationships; these are some of the key ingredients in the resilience stew.
Importantly, we don’t need to go through a major traumatic event or life upheaval to begin to develop resilience, many studies have found regular ‘micro-doses’ of self-care are one of the most effective ways to build and sustain resilience.
The top 10 practices are:
- Get enough sleep
- Eat regular, well-balanced meals
- Seek out connection with friends, family and community for support
- Practise gratitude
- Release tension in healthy ways e.g. exercise, yoga
- Set limits, especially when others are too demanding of your time or energy
- Connect with nature
- Find creative ways to express yourself
- Limit exposure to media
We are delighted to find this resonates with the participants on our home retreats. Hannah offered ‘I’m really keen to integrate little moments of stillness and mindfulness into my day to help deal with stresses and unpredictability’ and Natasha said ‘it was a wonderful experience to retreat at home and find the time for me rather than everybody else’.
The moments during the day when we pause to take a long, slow deep breath and feel really present, when we’re able to notice how it feels to tenderly rub a beautifully scented oil into our skin, really matter and show the power of mindfulness.
It’s easy to believe we need to spend hours engaged in self-care, or that unless we have a well-established routine, it doesn’t count. But this is nonsense! We need practices that support our lives, not take us out of them, and those little moments all add up.
At State of Liberty, we want to support you as you integrate wellbeing into your everyday life. Moments of self-care, the ones that cultivate deep and lasting resilience, can be found in the smallest interactions with all that surrounds you.
We’ve created a Weekly Wellbeing Toolkit for you, it includes tips and advice on setting intentions, overcoming resistance to your self-care, a candlelight meditation for reflection plus weekly inspiration and support which all help to integrate wellbeing into your everyday life.
Love Lizzie, Sas and the SOL team xx